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"I promise, Suzy... Even if it takes the rest of my life." - Nancy G. Brinker, founder of Susan G. Komen for the Cure

What is Triple Negative Breast Cancer?

WHAT IS TRIPLE NEGATIVE BREAST CANCER?

Just in recent years, Triple Negative Breast Cancer has sparked interest in the news where instead of calling the tumor as ER-negative, PR-negative, and HER2-negative; researchers began using the shorthand term, "Triple Negative," dubbed the "new type" type of cancer. Being Triple Negative, you don't have a targeted therapy and that your only treatment option is chemotherapy.

Triple Negative is seen in about 15% of all breast cancers. Triple Negative is a very aggressive cancer that tends to strike younger women, pre-menopause, especially among African-American women and women who have BRCA1 mutations. The tumor tends to be fast growing and is less likely to show up on an annual mammogram. TN is more likely to metastasis early on; has a high rate of recurrence in the first 2-3 years from diagnosis and has a poorer prognosis than other types of breast cancer due to lack of specific, targeted treatment for TNBC.

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Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Triple Negative Breast Cancer Is Rare But Aggressive - WTOL.com - Toledo's News Leader |


Triple negative breast cancer is rare but aggressive - WTOL.com - Toledo's News Leader | (click to view video)







By Jonathan Walsh -
TOLEDO, OH (WTOL) - It's aggressive. It's rare. And sometimes, it doesn't show up on a mammogram.
A special information session was held Monday night on triple negative breast cancer. This variation only affects about 15 percent of breast cancer patients, but it attacks quickly.
Survivors asked questions about the disease to help understand more about what to expect. They also asked whether their daughters should have genetic testing.
Melissa Paskvan is a triple negative patient who attended. "I knew I had aggressive cancer," she said. "I knew it was rare, and I knew there was no treatment for it besides chemo."



Thursday, March 24, 2011

Today, I Lost A Very Close Friend To Triple Negative Breast Cancer...

Melissa and Robin at her benefit dinner, November 2010

Today, March 24, 2011, I lost one of my closest friends, Robin Kraemer, age 56 to Triple Negative Breast Cancer. I am so sad right now... Robin was my neighbor directly across the street from me for the past 17 years, we spoke almost daily. She gave this such a good, long 2½ year fight, and I admired her strength. I spent Monday and Tuesday with her and shared some laughs. Today she was non-responsive but could hear us talking as I sat at her side. This is so heartbreaking for many of us who loved her so much. Robin, I love you so much, and thank you for telling me to get a mammogram when I found my lump and showed it to you and you felt it. You're finally at peace, and I know you will be watching over me like you always did.


Melissa Robin at her Ohio State Party, November 2008

God saw you getting tired
and a cure was not to be
so he put his arms around you
and whispered,
"Come to me"


With tearful eyes we watched you
and saw you pass away
and although we love you dearly
we could not make you stay


A Golden heart stopped beating
hard working hands at rest
God broke our hearts to prove to us
He only takes the best


- Author unknown



Robin, I remember like 5  years ago when we joked about me making funeral CD's, yours being the first to be made including Led Zeppelin's "Stairway to Heaven" and you wanted it to be played at your funeral.  Last night at the funeral home towards the end of your evening, when things were quieting down, all of a sudden "Stairway to Heaven" blasted out, I mean you rocked it out, our sadness bursted into laughter as we knew this what you said you always wanted... turn it up, please! Then this morning as we gathered one last time in the parlor room as "Stairway to Heaven" was softly being played before prayers, I never thought I could cry through a Led Zeppelin song, I'm sure you were pleased. As I'm winding down the night, I spin this song one last time for the evening, Enjoy the ride.
"Dear lady, can't you hear the wind blow, and did you know
Your stairway lies on the whispering wind..."


Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Making Strides Against Breast Cancer Kickoff March 5, 2011

Me with my "special mom", Kathy Arnholt


 My Triple Negative Sisters: Jen Cannon, 
Genny Diaz Williams & me

Me & my TNBC sister, Genny

Kathy & Melissa

front: Kathy, Genny, Melissa
back: Jen & Nikki

Me: "Cupcakes!"


“We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” ~Frederick Keonig




Toledo Walleye Hockey "Pink In The Rink" 2011









Me and TNBC survivor and good friend, Genny Diaz Williams whom I met at radiation went to "Pink at the Rink" on March 4, 2011 to support breast cancer awareness where tens of thousands of dollars was raised for Susan G. Komen for the Cure for research. 

Life Beyond Breast Cancer

I am now a 18 month survivor and celebrated another birthday this past August, Woo Hoo! Being 1 year out post treatment, I feel great for the most part... I still have a lot of fatigue tho. Is there such thing as chemo brain? Absolutely!... Seriously, I feel like my brain is fried... I have become very forgetful and it does annoy me at times and can be frustrating ... best thing for me to do is to write everything down. On one of several occasions, I've had trouble with words, for instance, recently was trying to type a message and I couldn't figure out how to spell the word "sad", it just wouldn't come to me... then I went to my dictionary to look the word up but then I couldn't sound it out... I was flustered, It's a 3 letter word S-A-D, I knew how to spell it, I'm not stupid, it's just my brain wouldn't function like it use to. 
After 9 months without a "cycle" due to chemo treatments, my menopause was just temporarily with period returning but irregular, Doc thinking I'll hit menopause again within 2 years My husband saw it as a sign that I'm getting better. Sucks to know that I have to go through menopause twice now. I still often rub my port scar missing my port being there... weird, I know. My hair came in gray and got darker and wavier as it's getting longer, about 5-6in. long now but seems like it's taking forever to grow out. I had my mammogram along with a MRI in September, CLEAR SCANS, still in remission... What a relief, I am now starting to feel confident about my health again. At my last breast exam, there was I think 3 interns; 1 male and 2 females, a nurse, my research coordinator and my oncologist when she asked me if I mind undressing so she can do a breast exam? Actually, I did mind with that many people in the room all looking at me. My oncologist then asked me if I want some of them to leave the room and I said, "Yes, all the woman can leave" leaving just the one one male intern, she laughed and sent all the woman out of the room. I then had my oncologist and the male intern turn around while I unbuttoned my shirt because I didn't want them to see the old raggedly bra I had on. 
My oncologist told the male intern that he has to ask me for my permission to do a breast exam on me so he asked me, "Melissa, May I"... I didn't even let him finish and I said, "Yes, you may!" My oncologist laughed and said she was going to email and tell my husband afterwards, LOL!
This past fall, my research coordinator had me on a study for ginseng for energy to help with my fatigue. After the first 8 weeks, I found out that I was only taking a placebo. Then 4 weeks of the "real" ginseng, it didn't help me at all with my fatigue... bummer. 
Let me tell you a little about BRCA that I'm still learning about. BCRA is a gene mutation that is passed down in family and is linked to a great risk of breast cancer and ovarian cancer. From what I heard is that most BRCA Positive cancer is also Triple Negative cancer and has a 80% chance of recurrence. Me being Triple Negative, that would make me a good candidate of being a BRCA carrier but I chose not to get tested because I don't want to know. My surgeon told me that it's not whether I get tested or not, it's what I decide to do with that information if I was to test positive for BRCA. Being BRCA positive, the recommendation would be to have a bilaterial mastectomy and have ovaries and tubal removal because the risks are so high. I don't think I could go through all that when everything is healthy right now if I was to test positive... It's too much for me to handle right night, kinda like starting all over again without the treatments. Doc told me to concentrate on the 20% of non-recurrence and reduce my risks with staying fit, low-fat diet changes, exercise, keeping up with my scans and now add ultrasound on my ovaries annually to the my list. The whole thing is pretty scary, I figured I deal with it when and if the time comes. 
I have participated in some of The Victory Center's programs and activities: massages and facials were my favorite; reflexology was good on my feet; Healing Touch and Reiki, I couldn't get into.... I guess it's not for me. What I enjoy most about the Victory Center is the Breast Cancer Support Group where you can go and talk to other women who have walked in my shoe's that don't mind talking about breast cancer and sharing each other's experiences. 
I walked the Komen Race for the Cure with some lady friends from high school... Wow, there was a lot of pink, a lot of survivors participating in the walk... you see the reality of how many women have been affected by breast cancer in NorthWest, Ohio. I participated in the University of Toledo's Relay for Life in December with my son. I've gone to various Susan G. Komen and The Victory Center events including University of Toledo girls basketball's "Rocket for the Cure", Toledo Mud Hens hockey "Pink in the Rink", various guest speaker events and The Victory Center's Luncheon and Fashion show featuring cancer survivors as models. 
After treatments, with no job to return to, I spent a good part of my summer visiting a good friend at the lake... trying to figure out my new "normal" and adjust to living again. Having Cancer has made me a much stronger woman, I know now that I can withstand anything. I have to admit that life after cancer treatments is a lot harder than when i was going through it. People seem to think that when you're done with treatments and is cancer free that it's done and over, put it behind you, things can go back to normal... Only if it was that easy. I've been struggling some... the life I once had, there's no going back to... so many changes that I'm learning to cope with still. I've got tears in my eyes as I'm writing this, because people just don't "get it" and I don't like to complain. I miss my jobs I once had, I really loved the work I did and it's all gone, my work defined me. I'm tired all the time and am not spending real quality time with my son and husband and we all have noticed it. I feel so scattered brain at times to the point I don't like to take on anything challenging and has been difficult for me to take care of my house like I should. I've been stressing with my follow-up appointments with how I'm gonna pay for the visits since my health insurance changed drastically. Diet and lifestyle changes have gotten easier but I still have a long way to go to reduce my chance of recurrence... It took me a year to get this through my head but I have to do it, I really do and it takes a lot of self discipline to stay on track. Along with my hair loss, the change in my breast appearance, limited use of my arm for risk of lymphedema, lasting aches and pains and the fear of relapse... This has all taken a toll on me. My "Triple Pink " sisters "get it"... they're all going through the exact same thing and just want to feel and look normal again, it hasn't been easy. I have reached out to many TNBC survivors who had walked my same path, it's very self-rewarding knowing that you have made a difference in that person's outlook as I do have a positive attitude... Don't get me wrong, I do have a lot of good days too where I get out and do fun stuff... I like living for the moment, enjoy who and what's around me... LOL, I do post a lot of pictures of good times, don't I? 

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Victory Center's Luncheon And Fashion Show Benefit 2011


On February 18, 2011, 360 guests came out to support The Victory Center's 4th annual Luncheon and Fashion Show featuring courageous cancer survivors as models.
Pictured with me is my friend/former co-worker Julie Overy on my left and my mother-in-law, Barb Purney on my right. Another very nice event for a very good cause, The Victory Center has been another home for me to meet up with other breast cancer survivors for good conversations.

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